As I scrolled through my phone notes, I noticed a quote I had saved:
Be excessively gentle with yourself.
Immediately, I took a breath and calm washed over me. I paused and realized how hard I was being on myself that morning.
I welcomed each expectation of project outlines, tasks, needs, plans, meetings and began organizing each into time blocks of work.
All in my head.
To top it off, it was a Saturday!
A stop sign popped up in my mind and I began to redirect the onslaught of expectations.
I chose to take the path of gentleness.
Then a self-compassion practice came to mind.
The practice begins with envisioning a friend expressing their concerns, expectations and struggles to me and taking note of how I would respond to this friend.
I would be gentle, kind and loving, surely not cracking the whip on them with “you should” or “why don’t you” messages.
Most of all, I would listen.
So why is it so hard to do that for me? Is it possible to practice this enough to make gentleness an automatic response for myself?
I think it comes with the excessively part of the equation.
I will be excessively gentle and over time the automatic response will be a gentle spirit welcoming my day.
I believe this is one area where I have permission to be excessive! That is refreshing and makes me laugh.
I brought my hand on my heart and reassured myself I was heard.
I decided to “shred” my “should” and say: “I want to”, “I get to” or I am happy to….
My mindset for my day completely shifted.
Gentleness made the difference.
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Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.