Recipes for Joy

My positive psychology mentor taught me how to make gatherings and events fun. As a former party planner, she knows how to incorporate activities to engage the guests and sprinkles in positive psychology.

We did just that for our engagement party. I had the guest write ONE key to a happy marriage on a recipe card, drop in the recipe box and take an old fashion key inscribed with words of inspiration as a memento.

The guests loved it and took it to heart. We now have over 30 recipes for JOY. The following are some samples:

*try to end each day with an expression of joy

*enjoy the outdoors together

*use “I” statements

*always keep God at the center, joy in your heart and leave anger at the door.

*realistic expectations

*keep on thanking each other for everyday tasks

*we can’t change each other, focus on the things you love and appreciate about each other

*long hugs, forgiveness and God

*keep your sense of humor

*prioritize each other

*keep your spark by celebrating anything and everything

*don’t think about what they can give you, but what you can give them.

I have been thinking about these recipes and realized they can be applied to all relationships. I value true connection at levels beyond the surface and always feel refreshed when a friend, family member, colleague and loved one is authentic, vulnerable, safe, and intentional with our time together, whether it is a daily occurrence or a once a year occurrence.

I look forward to pulling out our recipe cards, listening and acting upon the wisdom shared by our circle of loved ones.

But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. James 1:5