Excessively Gentle

May 5, 2020

As I scrolled through my phone notes, I noticed a quote I had saved:


Be excessively gentle with yourself. 


Immediately, I took a breath and calm washed over me. I paused and realized how hard I was being on myself that morning. 


I welcomed each expectation of project outlines, tasks, needs, plans, meetings and began organizing each into time blocks of work.


All in my head. 


To top it off, it was a Saturday!


A stop sign popped up in my mind and I began to redirect the onslaught of expectations.


I chose to take the path of gentleness.


Then a self-compassion practice came to mind.


The practice begins with envisioning a friend expressing their concerns, expectations and struggles to me and taking note of how I would respond to this friend.


I would be gentle, kind and loving, surely not cracking the whip on them with “you should” or “why don’t you” messages. 


Most of all, I would listen. 




So why is it so hard to do that for me?  Is it possible to practice this enough to make gentleness an automatic response for myself? 


I think it comes with the excessively part of the equation.


I will be excessively gentle and over time the automatic response will be a gentle spirit welcoming my day.


I believe this is one area where I have permission to be excessive! That is refreshing and makes me laugh.  


I brought my hand on my heart and reassured myself I was heard.


I decided to “shred” my “should” and say: “I want to”, “I get to” or I am happy to….


My mindset for my day completely shifted. 


Gentleness made the difference. 


Resources to Thrive:

Empowering Coaching Session

One time session to a path of self-compassion and mindfulness


Gratitude and Savoring Support: Savor the Day Journal
Benefits: Happiness and Life satisfaction



Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.

Philippians 4:5



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