If someone tells you three strengths and one weakness, what will you focus on after? Most likely, it will be the weakness.
During my positive psychology training we completed a character strengths assessment. The results showed my top 5 signature strengths and a total of 25. We read descriptions of each strength and practiced approaching challenges or problems using our strengths. It was a refreshing approach. We did not focus on “fixing” our weaknesses, we equipped ourselves to use our strengths like a deck of cards: which one can I pull out to help in a given situation?
As a result of this self- awareness, I have learned to call out the strengths of others. During conversations about life, it is an opportunity to notice strengths. It is empowering. We expect to hear of our weaknesses. I find that people respond in surprise, some smile, some are uncomfortable and some say thank you. At the end of the day, I may note in my gratitude journal my strengths of the day. The best way to be a natural at calling out the strengths of others is to do it for myself building a positive and automatic response system in daily life.
We have different gifts according to the grace given to each of us.